Being
a father comes with many great and fun responsibilities that allows you
to grow and understand your child or any other child for that matter.
As a father, it is very important to form an unbreakable bond with your
child. You cannot just fertilize a woman's egg and then simply pay child
support and call yourself a father. A Father is a strong and powerful
word and therefore any male that fatherhood has been bestowed upon must
act in accordance with what the name means. Too often we have seen where
fathers have been missing from children's lives allowing only the ever
strong and trying mother to grow up and support the child. A child will
need their father and surveys have shown that children with father's
directly involved in their children's lives actually experience a better
lifestyle, happier and seldom gets involved in trouble with the law.
Let’s look of some of the things that makes a man a good father.
Financial Support
As
we are all aware, no one on this earth can survive without some sort of
financial support. It doesn't matter what type or form the support
comes in. Whether it be begging, food stamps, inheritance or employment.
Every single child needs some sort of financial support and that
financial support should first come from the parents once they are in
good standings to provide such. A good father will support his child
financially in any way he possibly can. This financial support is
extremely critical to the child's survival and growth in life.
Food This is no secret that nutrition is
necessary for any human being to be healthy and grow properly. We have
seen many times where fathers have even neglected to buy simple foods
for their own children.
Clothing A good father will ensure that his
child is always properly clothed. It doesn't necessarily mean that you
will need to provide the newest fashion trends, it simply means that you
are the one to ensure that a shirt is always on his/her back.
Education One of the most important financial
support you could ever give your child. There is a saying that says
"Education is key". Yes, good education is key to being successful in
life. Education can be quite expensive as we all know. But i am sure
there are ways and means of giving your child a good sound education so
later in life they will be able to naturally survive on their own and
live a more fruitful life.
Shelter Would you believe that there are
children who are in shelters that do have fathers? A father is
responsible to ensure that his child has a good roof over his head and
is at least comfortable in the environment he/she is gown in.
Father feeding daughter
Fostering a Good Relationship
Every
child sees his dad as a magnificent man, maybe the superhero in his/her
life. Many times sons emulate their fathers and will do and act how
their father does and act. It is of the utmost importance that a father
is not scared to let his emotions be shown towards his children no
matter how old they are. Exercise and show love towards your child as
this fosters children who perform better in society. Whenever the time
arrives, let your children know how much you love and appreciate them.
Playing with your child always cements a bond from when they are little
until they grow older. They will develop an emotional glue that will
always be there between father and child.
Open Bonding
As your child grows, so will their feelings and thoughts and
problems. It is always good to try to form a bond with your child so
that they can come and speak with you about any problems they are
facing, whether it be internal or external issues. Many times if
children could speak to their fathers about problems they are facing or
have that good father figure in their lives, they may not have gotten
into many sticky situations because they would have him to guide their
decision making.
Teaching Good Morals
It is not up to the teacher at the kindergarten school or the
motivational speaker on the television to properly grow your child. It
takes both parents to influence how the child grows and values instilled
while the child grows. It is extremely important for fathers to teach
their children good morals especially in a time when having good morals
is being kicked to the curb and indiscipline is awarded with fame and
fortune. When morals are taught by especially the father, it comes
across with more authority than if the mother was to teach or instill
them. Even though a father should be fun, loving, does crazy things with
his child. He must also maintain that balance between love and
discipline.
Father and son playing
Being a Role Model
Practice
what you preach. Children are mimickers and emulators, especially when
they are at a young and tender age. They look and absorb their
environment and the people which resides in that environment, both in
home, school or neighborhood. They are quite impressionable and the
persons who they tend to want to follow mostly are the persons closer to
them, friends and family. It is very important in a child's growth how
the child sees his father. If he sees you as that wonderful person that
loves him, loves his mother and works hard for the family while giving
love and fun he will definitely have that character type locked in his
subconscious for many years to come. If the father is a constant drunk
and a regular jailer, which will certainly leave a bad and tasteless
character build for your child. This is so bad that he/she just may end
up later in life doing the very same negative things that the father
have done. More often, it is actually the sons who emulate their fathers
more and many-times walks in their footsteps.
Protection
A
family will feel much more protected when there is a father at home.
One main responsibility of a father is to always ensure that his child
is and feels safe. No matter what are the elements, the child will
always see his father as someone big and strong that fears nothing. A
father has a much more intimidating look than mothers and many times
predators will think twice before attempting any sick action when a
father is present. Bullying is another major impact as to why children
need fathers for protection. It doesn't mean that the father will go
punch someone in the face, but i can tell you that a good warning from a
father goes a very long way.
Discipline
Not
because you are that wacky father who climbs on the top of the shed
with your son and jumps off on a tone of piled leaves doesn't make you
immune from disciplining your child. This is one of society’s main
problem right now. Children are not being disciplined as they ought to
and what is the result of this; a society with little or no morals, a
society where young teen girls prefer fishnet stockings than a beautiful
dress, a young man who bullies the new kid while his friends cheer on
and have a laugh about it. Disciplining your child doesn't mean that you
will tie them to the post in the Sahara desert, it simply means that
when a child does something wrong or say something disrespectful, the
father should ensure that such negative actions are not fostered by
enabling the necessary punishments. Be careful how you discipline your
child though as this too can have negative effects in the child's life.
Always speak to your child about a situation before applying punishment.
Punishment should be only applied if the offense is repeated, not on
the first go.
Conclusion
Being
a Good father is really not difficult at all. All the things that i
have mentioned within this article should be mandatory as soon as you
realize that you are on your way to fatherhood. There are many
sacrifices that sometimes needs to be made by fathers for the sake of
your child. Do it and do it smiling knowing that the sacrifice being
made is for a beautiful son or daughter that you love dearly. Just like
how mothers are important and needed in a child's life, a good father is
even much more important and well needed. So kudos to all the wonderful
fathers who have shown nothing short of valiance, love, support and the
many sacrifices they have made in order for their child to have a good
life.
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